Is your girlfriend cheating?

I am a 26-year-old lady. I am a gorgeous-looking young lady. It seems that I inspire men to reach out to me, as every man wants to start a relationship with me. My boyfriend and I are fine, just like every relationship possesses. We do not quarrel, and we live in a good relationship, but we lack sexual contact quite often, which bothers me a lot.

At work, my single colleagues often express interest in forming a romantic relationship with me. Similarly, when I am out shopping, some men stop me and want to get to know me. I've had a healthy relationship with my boyfriend for three years now, and we live together.  

The only problem I have is that I have been dating another man for the same three years I have been together with my boyfriend. We don't live together; he doesn't interfere in my life, he doesn't demand decisions. We just... eat, somewhere in a parallel reality. I know it's wrong. I know that someone will call it a betrayal. But I can't leave my boyfriend because we share a common understanding and values.

And at that very moment, I thought about this double relationship, I started to feel that I am lying to my boyfriend right now." I felt ashamed. I felt pain. But then I realized that this is not just about cheating alone. It's about the fact that we have long stopped seeing each other as men and women. We became roommates, have some sex sometimes, and memories connect people. And not by feelings. I don't know whether he has any relationship with other women, and I don't care if he does. After all, we do have sex sometimes, not as often as before. Perhaps he does not like having sex with me, or maybe he suspects that I am having a relationship with another man. Who knows.  

If you're wondering whether your girlfriend might be cheating, it's essential to approach the situation carefully and thoughtfully. Jumping to conclusions without solid evidence can damage trust and potentially harm a healthy relationship.

 That said, here are some common signs that may indicate something's off:

Possible Signs of Cheating

Sudden Changes in Behavior

• She's more secretive with her phone or computer.
• Starts locking devices or deleting message histories.

Less Interest in You

• Emotionally distant, less affectionate, or uninterested in sex.
• Stops sharing her day or avoiding conversations.

Changes in Routine

• Unexplained late nights or "extra work hours."
• Hanging out with "new friends" she doesn't want you to meet.

Appearance Upgrades

• Sudden focus on looking extra good—new clothes, perfume, lingerie—without involving you.

Defensiveness or Guilt

• Overreacts when asked simple questions.
• Starts accusing you of cheating (projection).

Less Availability

• Unreachable for long periods.
• Takes much longer to reply to calls or texts.

Your Gut Tells You Something’s Off

• Intuition is not proof, but if something feels wrong consistently, it's worth exploring.

What to Do About It

•  Talk, Don’t Accuse: Ask her if she’s been feeling distant or unhappy lately.
• Observe, Don’t Obsess: Look for consistent patterns, not isolated events.
• Avoid Snooping: It violates trust and can backfire.
• Seek the Truth, Not Revenge: If you do find out she’s cheating, focus on your healing and next steps.