Dating 101: How to Tell the Duds From the Studs

Dating advice quizzes > The difference between DUDS and STUDS checklists

You can find a love match, regardless of your circumstances or relationship needs.

Everyone is seeking love, irrespective of their status - college students, laid-off individuals, divorcees, single parents, and recession-proof millionaires are all seeking a mate while dating online and/or offline. Not to mention looking for that soul mate! Especially right now, when the number of online daters are soaring -- and being single, at any age, is becoming more commonplace.

Dating is a numbers game. A numbers game. So you do need to separate what I call the DUDS (Definitely Unworkable Dudes/Dudesses) from the STUDS (Seriously Terrific, Utterly Devoted).

Use the quick test below to determine if someone is worth dating by identifying their positive behaviors. This will help you weed out those who are heartbreakers and problematic love matches, or who are unworkable.

Like raw diamonds, we are all flawed and require honing and polishing. Therefore, remember that there is no perfect partner, including yourself. And as a single searching for the ultimate companion, you can discover that diamond in the rough-- that someone with whom you can truly thrive.

As you're getting to know a potential partner, keep in mind these DUD/STUD quiz questions to determine if he or she is a dating contender for you:

 

Is this person crazy about you?

• Reveals reluctance to leave your presence

• Asks about your life interests

• Wants to be helpful

• Is verbally and physically affectionate

• Desires to be romantic with you

• Acts like you are very special; rejects opportunities to date others

Is this person willing to grow with you?

• Accepts suggestions/advice well

• Engages in self-reflection

• Willing to learn new things with you

• Takes courses for personal or career growth

• Meditates/prays or is comfortable with one's spirituality

Does your date meet the basics?

• Exhibits reliability, honesty, and altruism

• Wants a real, committed relationship

•Agrees with your choice to have, or not have, children

• Enjoys or pursues career success and/or financial independence

• Understands your religious faith- or your absence of a specific faith

• Leaves all past romances with anyone else

•Shows love and support of family and friends

•Lives close to you

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