Please advise me about how I can handle my husband's behavior.
My husband and I got married over a year ago. I was earning over 5m as take-home salary while he earned somewhere 500,000
He didn’t have any issues with it, and I didn’t have one either. About three months into the marriage, my salary went up and then increased again. I’m taking over $ 9 million now, but it’s just salary; it’s not a big deal for me.
The thing is that my husband is so insecure, but won’t admit it. I don’t ask him fr money, I’ve asked him to save his, so we spend my money on everything. I even give him part of my salary for his expenses. I just want to make him comfortable and happy.
But this man is still insecure. He said he won’t impregnate me until he earns more or equivalent to my salary. He’s doing his master's and putting pressure on himself, talking to people, and always trying other companies to see if he could get a better salary.
It’s like he competes with me. I don’t even talk about money with him, and he’s never asked me for money for anything. Once I see he has a need or he's worried about something, I just transfer money to him.
I earn allowances too, so I don’t mind. I just want us to be happy. I have two master’s degrees, a PhD, and other certificates, and he has just a degree. I got him that job that pays him $500k, but I don’t mention it to him.
I am 31 and want to have children, but this man is so reluctant, always saying he wants to start earning more money first. I give him enough to save his entire 500k monthly, but he’s not satisfied.
I’ve never had money fights with him, and I do everything at home; he doesn’t even help. We are the same age; all I want is for us to love each other and be happy.
I want us to start a family; it’s been almost two years. What else can I do to make him see that I’m not about money? I just want us to be happy because nothing I do is working. I can’t even tell him my achievements at work or any financial gains I've made, because he would be jealous. How can I make him feel safe?
