Things to look for
We'll preface this by saying that this is not rocket science. And it's not based on a research study, either. Instead, we've gathered this dating advice through casual conversations with single women and some polling. They've shared with us all the silent observations they make during the early stages of dating. Yes, we know, sneaky. But save your guilt. Actions speak volumes, and single men are likely doing the same thing.
How do single women know what to look for? Every woman seems to have gathered an amalgamation of anecdotal wisdom, passed down from either a sister, a grandmother, or a college or graduate school roommate. And while each checklist is different (depending on what each woman is looking for in a man), the advice often includes making at least one of these three observations. Take from this what you will.
How does he treat the wait staff?
We've heard, from the mouths of sage older women, that the way a man treats the people who serve him out in public, whether it's a waitress or a cab driver, can indicate how he may later treat the woman he marries. Put: If he's impatient or rude about what's being served to him out at a restaurant, or worse, if he neglects to tip the cab driver a dime, red alert. If he strikes up a friendly (not flirty) conversation with the people he encounters, the panel says: Keeper. As with many things in life, it's all in the tone.
How does he treat cute and cuddly animals?
Does he show an affectionate side when playing with friendly, furry animals? Is his pet in love with him? Does his fish have a name? Like we said, this isn't rocket science, but if he's complaining about a teeny-tiny powder-puff dog hogging the sidewalk - or his fish starts floating and he sighs, "no worry, I'll just get another" -- you may want to start running for the hills.
How does he talk about his mother?
Is the word "mom" followed by a litany of disparaging comments, or does he talk about the good relationship he has with her with an air of respect? If he praises his mom and speaks of her with a smile or a laugh, we've heard that this is an excellent sign. Again, take from this what you will.
