The Dangerous Seven Habits that destroy any relationship.

Psychologist Victoria spoke about habits that destroy any relationships. Suppose you are ready to work on your relationship with a loved one and care about where it will lead. In that case, a psychologist suggests analyzing whether you are making common mistakes that can destroy any relationship.

Criticism

It is incredibly harmful to criticize your partner's character or personality,’ said psychologist Victoria in her blog. ‘It is better to focus on specific behavior or actions. Criticism can destroy the emotional connection and increase the likelihood of divorce.’

Defense and Attack

It is dangerous for relationships to respond to a remark or a normal discussion with defense, denial, or attack,’ says the expert. ‘You shouldn’t start making excuses or shifting blame. For example, if your spouse says, “I miss your attention,” responding with, “You never like anything!” or “Who are you to talk about attention! You only need me when I bring home my salary.’ This is one of the most dangerous signs that the relationship is heading for collapse, warns.

Mockery and biting sarcasm.

"Demonstrating dislike for a partner by sighing and rolling your eyes, and devaluing what they love, is wrong. Leave behind mockery and biting sarcasm; such behavior should not exist! It leads to prolonged resentments," warns Victoria.

Ignoring the positive

Many couples are so used to focusing on problems that they don’t notice how much positivity exists in their relationship and how good those relationships provide," says Victoria. "In a 24-hour day, even if you fought for three hours straight, there was peace and friendship for the rest of the time. Did you notice that?

Devaluing achievements

"You shouldn’t keep repeating that your spouse doesn’t do anything special," says the expert. "Indeed, did the wife cook a delicious dinner – is that an achievement? How about the husband fixing the faucet quickly and efficiently, isn't that just his duty and not an achievement? If you recognize yourself in such conversations, think about it. This is a real habit of devaluing. For relationships to be strong, "It is important to notice even the little things and be thankful for them."

Avoidance of conflict

Attempting to build walls and not listening. Unfortunately, 85% of the time, this behavior is exhibited by men. Without open dialogue, it is unlikely that relationship improvement is possible," explains Victoria, avoidance of conflict and inadequate behavior during quarrels.

During a quarrel

Quarrels themselves are not dangerous for relationships if both partners know how to behave adequately in a conflict, the psychologist points out. It is important not to insult, raise your voice, slam doors, or threaten divorce," the expert advises. "But also ignoring problems and avoiding discussions is not a solution. Good relationships are not those without conflicts, but those which a conflict cannot destroy."