There are plenty of fish

The "scarcity myth" is the belief that there are very few high-quality, compatible partners available — and if you don’t act quickly to reach them in good time or make compromises, they will be gone, and you'll end up alone. While it may have generated a loss of lovers online, it also fuels fear-based dating, unhealthy attachments, and settling for less than you deserve. Let’s break that myth down and build a healthier mindset around dating.

The scarcity myth thrives on fear and low self-worth. Flip the script: dating isn’t about racing to grab something rare — it’s about aligning with someone who sees and values you as you are. The world is made up of about soon ten billion people on earth, and when you believe in abundance, you date with peace, power, and a sense of purpose.

What Is the Scarcity Myth?

It sounds like this:

• “All the good ones are taken.”

• “If I don’t date this person, who knows when I’ll find someone else?”

• “I’m too old / too late / too [insert fear here] to find someone better.”

This scarcity mindset creates a sense of urgency and pressure, which often leads to poor decision-making.

Why It's a Myth

Billions of People Exist

The notion that there are “only a few good ones” overlooks the vast, diverse, and dynamic nature of the dating pool, particularly with the advent of global connectivity.

Compatibility Isn’t Fixed

You grow. Others grow. Compatibility shifts over time. It’s not about finding the one, but someone who aligns with your current values, direction, and connection.

You’re Not Chosen — You Choose

Scarcity thinking makes you feel like you're waiting to be picked. In reality, you have agency. You’re not at the mercy of luck — you’re curating your life.

Settling Feeds Scarcity

When you accept less out of fear, you reinforce the belief that you can’t do better. That becomes a self-fulfilling loop.

A Better Mindset:

Suggest that there is an abundance in Dating, given that there are a lot of people to choose from.

• "Not the right one" means you're closer to the right one. Every experience helps refine your clarity.

• You're growing in value, not decreasing. Experience, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence are attractive.

• Quality attracts quality. Focus on becoming the kind of person you want to be in a relationship with.

Questions to Shift Your Thinking

• Am I dating out of fear or curiosity?

• Do I believe love is something I chase or something I align with?

• What would I do differently if I knew my person was out there?