An ordinary, honest, and decent man is not interesting to women today. What do they need from men?
I have an acquaintance.
You know, he's a pretty normal guy. When I met him about 15 years ago, he told me about his life views. By past standards, he's quite a decent man. He can do everything around the house, can fix anything from various electrical appliances to plumbing, assemble furniture, do repairs (and, by the way, not haphazardly, but very well), fix cars, isn't shy about helping wash dishes, cleans up, loves cleanliness, and can cook. Of course, it's not gourmet, but everything meat-related is delicious and filling. And he even has the right ideas, though not modern. He would defend a girl in any conflict, even if he didn't know her. He believes that women should be respected; it's unacceptable to raise a hand against them, and swearing in their presence is also out of the question. But the thing is, women aren't interested in him. He is still unmarried. Girls don’t like that he doesn’t have his car and apartment. He reasons that you can take a taxi and live in a rented place for now.
They are not satisfied with the apartment.
Well, he hasn't acquired his property or vehicle yet. He lives with his mom. And that's why the groom is not considered promising. Even though his income is quite decent by current standards, he hasn't saved up for a car or housing yet, and he doesn't see the need for it right now. He gets along fine without a car; taxis can take him anywhere, and he plans to live in a rented apartment if he moves in with a girlfriend. And he wonders why they can't get married and then save together for an apartment? Why should a man already own his housing? And why are girls not satisfied with a rented apartment? He is even ready to bring a girl to live with his mom, but he understands that it would be uncomfortable for her, so he is prepared to live in a rented apartment. An ordinary, honest, decent man who wants to spend his whole life with the woman he loves, wants to care for her, and will respect and cherish her, is not interesting to women.
Modern girls have some incorrect values.
If a man hasn't earned his car, he is considered inadequate and a loser. There were few women, not a womanizer. There’s something wrong with you. Modest, decent – again, somewhat strange, a bore. A man should be assertive, decisive, bold, even somewhat rough, and above all – "shoveling money with a shovel" (maybe the expression is a bit outdated, but it very accurately describes what girls want), right? You earn honestly and not much – you can't adapt and maneuver. Girls want a man who is already ready for a relationship, meaning financially stable. An apartment, a car, definitely all the appliances at home, so she doesn’t have to do anything, wash, vacuum, do dishes, etc. And then they find such alpha males, who turn out to be tyrants and abusers, and then the girls, in tears and hysteria, complain to their friends that there are no normal guys.
But there are.
They behave more modestly, do not demonstrate their abilities, do not boast about the thickness of their wallet, don’t approach boldly in expensive cars, and don’t show their arrogance and strength to women. They are more modest and perhaps more intelligent. It's probably not fashionable to be a good and honest guy. One can be rich and generous, of course, without excluding the other.
But women who are primarily focused only on money ultimately get exactly what they deserve. In general, a man should also support his family materially. Provide quality food, housing, and education to children, and ensure the entire family has access to quality medical care if necessary. But why can't a husband and wife save together, for example, for a car or their housing? Why does a man have to have all of this already, while a woman comes, so to speak, to everything ready? Why is luxury needed? Why can't one live according to one's income if all the necessities are present?
