My wife abandoned me

"My wife abandoned me when I was banned from football and lost my Fame. She was only there for the Money and Fame - " Paul Hansen says”

When I got banned from football, everything in my life changed. The fame was gone, the spotlight faded, and just like that, people disappeared. I wasn’t helpful to anyone anymore. The same people who used to call me every day, invite me to events, show me love and respect — they all went silent. But what broke me the most wasn’t the fans or friends walking away, it was my wife leaving me.

And most importantly, being abandoned—especially by someone you trusted and loved—after losing something as central as your career and public identity is devastating, especially from the woman you thought would stand beside me when life got dark, simply walked away. That pain still lives in my heart, says Paul Hansen. It’s not just the loss of fame or football; it’s also the shock of seeing who sticks around when everything falls apart.

You were likely at the top—admired, respected, maybe even envied. Then suddenly, stripped of that, people you thought were in your corner vanish. That’s a deep kind of betrayal. Your wife's abandonment likely feels like the cruelest blow of all, not just because she left, but because she did it when you needed support the most. – “I was no longer Hansen the star, so people treated me like I didn’t matter”. It felt like everything I had built just fell apart right before my eyes.

But maybe that’s what I needed. That season of pain helped me see people for who they are. It hurt, but it also woke me up. I’m finally at peace because the noise is gone. No more fake friends, no more lies. I now know I’m walking this journey alone, and that’s okay. I’ve found strength in the silence — “Paul Hansen says”

Sorry for what you're going through right now, Paul Hansen, but we would like to ask this question, if you are open to it:

• What happened with football—was it an injury, a suspension, a scandal?

• And how long has it been since your wife left?

We know there is no quick fix, but if you want to process this and slowly rebuild—from your identity to your relationships—Zillove is here to help you, step by step.