If the husband cheated, then who is mostly to blame for this?
If the husband cheated, then who is mostly to blame for this? Why was the mistress blamed before, and now it's the wife?
If a husband cheats, then who is to blame the most for this? Why was the mistress to blame before, and today it’s the wife? I realized that the concept of "infidelity" has no clear definition. For some, it's physical intimacy, while for others, even light flirtation is considered betrayal. Some say that infidelity occurs when feelings have developed, even if the person is still physically faithful. However, some women think like this: "So what if my husband strays? The main thing is that he always returns to me, which means he loves me."Some believe that all men cheat, and that’s okay, nothing serious; the important thing is that they come home, bring money, and love their children. After all, men are polygamous. But when talking about polygamy, it usually isn’t about gender but about the human species as a whole. It’s believed that humans are inherently polygamous, not just men. Yet, somehow, there are always more questions regarding female infidelity, while that very polygamy often justifies men. Why do people cheat? Perhaps every person has their reasons.
Probably everyone has their reasons. Some just can't control their instincts, while others are searching for something or someone, and they find it. And who is to blame for that? Nowadays, people have started to "dig into themselves" very often, recalling their psychological traumas, remembering problems they had in childhood, and generally finding a multitude of different issues within themselves. Is this good? I think not. That is, for one person it may be helpful, while for another it can plunge them into unnecessary memories and experiences. This is how many advise women today to look for the reason within themselves if their husband has cheated. They need to think about what they did wrong. Why did the husband prefer another woman? Although it would sometimes be more beneficial to consider the man's shortcomings and explore the underlying reasons for his infidelity. Perhaps he is that kind of person, rather than the wife being at fault. "It's not about who the man who cheated on you chose. "Okay, maybe I'm not very attractive? Not very smart?" — quickly stop these thoughts. Don't even start thinking about it.
You risk "getting stuck" in this circle and truly believing in something like that." Eva Longoria, why didn't wives used to be considered guilty for their husbands' infidelity? Nadia in the movie "Love and Pigeons" was able to forgive her wandering Vasily. After all, he didn't just stray while on vacation and then come back; he abandoned his unsuspecting wife and children. It's disgraceful! Not manly in any respect. And what did Nadia do? She forgave him. Women used to stand by their men. And if he strayed, it was not as terrifying as if he had taken to drink. No one wanted to lose a good, sober, hardworking husband. That's why infidelities were forgiven. They often said he would fool around and return. Who was blamed? The mistress. Well, the husband, too, just a little. The wife was never condemned. The one to whom someone's husband had left at least once was considered the home wrecker; everyone judged her, sometimes even avoided her, and did not want to associate with her. The wife didn't have time to dig into herself and look for reasons. There were plenty of other concerns. And the wives didn't blame themselves for this. And in general, it was...
And in general, we tried to bring the husband back to the family because it was easier to live that way. But what about today? Now, for some reason, it is the wives who are blamed for all the infidelities. If the husband cheated, you need to look at yourself. 'Why did he leave you, such a good person, for a lover? It means you didn't give him something, you were the one who couldn't keep him.' Who is really to blame? Of course, if someone cheated, it means that not everything is smooth in the relationship. One can say that both are to blame. However, the responsibility ultimately lies with the one who cheated. It was he who chose to solve problems in this way, he who didn't try to change things, but simply found a convenient alternative. And often men behave this way: they casually roam around with others, changing lovers. And this can go on for years. And they justify themselves by saying that the wife is bad, angry, grumpy, overweight, spoiled, nervous, etc. Why rush to another woman right away? Why not talk to your wife heart-to-heart, explain that this is how it is, I love you, but I want you to...
Has changed a bit. Both are guilty of infidelity: the one who cheats and the one who is cheated on. But I believe that responsibility always lies with the stronger one. The woman is led; she is weaker in the couple.'
