6 signs that your marriage is on the verge of collapse
If a person is in a relationship where their needs are not met for a long time, they start to experience anxiety or even symptoms of depression. And even if they try not to think about it and convince themselves that everything is fine, it will affect their physical and mental health,' says family psychologist, marriage therapist Virginia Williamson. She names the signs of unhealthy family relationships. You feel contempt for your partner. This is different from regular irritation due to specific situations, for example, your husband leaving his socks all over the house.
If one spouse ignores almost everything the other says, regardless of the circumstances, and devalues all the words and qualities of a partner, it is a serious reason to reflect. "Couples who show contempt for each other always have a low chance of successfully restoring their relationship," says Williamson. A spouse undermines your self-esteem. Researchers who have studied couple interactions for many years note that in healthy relationships, there should be five positive interactions for every negative one. Williamson says that, firstly, it is essential to work on oneself. And to understand whether your low self-esteem is directly caused by your partner or by your issues. But if your insecurity, devaluation, and other unpleasant feelings are indeed related to criticism from your spouse, that’s a troubling sign.
If you feel that your partner is controlling you. "In healthy relationships, both partners should have the ability to influence each other's viewpoints," claims Williams.
— If your spouse manipulates your choices, it is a sign that they do not view you as an equal person." This control can be open and manifested in the form of restricting access to finances, making decisions about who you can associate with, or even refusing to watch the children if you need to leave for personal matters. Or it can be more subtle
— the spouse may seem to doubt you and your abilities. You stay together only for the children. If you remain in the marriage to avoid hurting the children (or maybe you feel sorry for your husband), it only means one thing: you are not taking care of yourself well. Put, if you are looking for reasons not to leave your spouse, then it’s time to go, no matter how paradoxical it may sound. You are developing an emotional affair, even if you are not thinking about cheating on your spouse, but simply feeling a slight infatuation for another man. When seeking connections outside of marriage becomes more important than seeking them within your marriage, it may be a sign that...
This means only one thing - you are not taking good care of yourself. Put, if you are looking for reasons not to leave your spouse, it means it's time to go, no matter how paradoxical that may sound. You are brewing an emotional affair. Even if you are not considering cheating on your spouse, you might just be feeling a slight crush on another man. When seeking connections outside of your marriage becomes more important than seeking them within your marriage, it may be a sign that the relationship has hit a dead end. And you are lacking a lot in it.
You have stopped arguing. Conflicts can be beneficial. They help express frustration, release emotions, and ultimately show that the problem exists for both partners and that they are ready to solve it. If you are avoiding conflict because you fear your spouse's reaction, or, on the contrary, think it's not worth your energy, that is a sign of a bad relationship.
Your body language shows unease and disinterest. The way we communicate without words also sends many signals. Suppose a couple turns away from each other during a conversation or does not instinctively reach out when their partner is going through a tough moment. In that case, it is a sign that they are no longer interested in the relationship. Look at the strongest couples in the domestic show business, who have carried their love through the decades, in our photo gallery.
