Being a couple forever
Almost everyone knows a couple that has "always" been together - since elementary school, sometimes even since kindergarten. And many are curious: what is it like to be with someone you have known all your life, and never have another partner? Couples who have known each other "forever", that is, since elementary school, say that there is "nothing special" about it; they just love each other - that has always been the case, and they hope it will continue to be so. Some have never thought about what it would be like to be with someone else. Love has always been there. They are happy that they met so early, and they didn’t have to "waste time" looking for their other half. Some of them admit that they were fortunate to meet their partner in childhood. They think that if love hadn’t happened to them right away, they might have serious problems finding a partner now, and perhaps they would be lonely.
Some of them see many people in their surroundings who cannot arrange their personal lives, even if they want to. They admit that they did not experience any hardships. This is because they never tried to seek love - it was there for them from the very beginning. And they value this a lot, emphasizing in their statements that they cannot imagine life with anyone else, because the first partner is not only their love but also their best friend. They share their entire lives; there was no special stage of getting to know each other because they always knew everything about each other, which contributes to everyday communication and understanding "without words." They believe it is much easier this way.
A 39-year-old man shared that he has known his wife since kindergarten and always knew they would be together. In high school, she didn't like it when he called her his wife, thinking he was joking, but he was persistent. Everything changed in college. They moved in together, got married, and had children. He cannot imagine his life without her; he is symbiotically connected to her. When they are apart for a long time, he cannot work correctly, gets anxious, distracted, and forgets what he needs to do.
There are also stories about the so-called 'break'. People were a couple in elementary school, sometimes in high school, but then their paths diverged. Then they met years later to love each other again, or, as some say, 'maybe we have always loved each other'. First love is a powerful feeling. When teenagers fall in love for the first time in their lives, everything becomes more intense, fresh, and new, and is remembered forever. Years later, the memories and emotions come alive. There is a greater awareness of feelings and maturity. For many people, a common past is the foundation for building a common future. 27-year-old Justina shared that in elementary school, her husband was a typical bully, the kind that girls love. He annoyed her terribly and would tease her. In eighth grade, they dated for a while and had their first kiss. But then he went to technical school, and she switched to high school. They studied in different cities and did not see each other for several years.
After graduation, they met at a friend's party. He turned out to be different from what she remembered him. They talked all night, reminiscing about the old times. Then he promised her that he would take her for a ride in a convertible, and he bought one, and the trip turned into a date. They had a very cheerful conversation, as if they had never parted. Now they are together and planning their wedding. "Past" feelings. Some stories show that "childhood love" does not always have a happy ending.
Why? Sometimes, there wasn't enough time to test their emotions, and love turned out to be only an attachment and friendship. Often in such situations, there is no "real" passion and desire. 37-year-old Carolina recalls that she and her husband have been together since middle school. They also went to elementary school together, where they were a couple. They were more friends, but everyone said they were a good match; everyone always knew they would or should be together. The girl's parents immensely liked the guy, his parents loved her, and no one ever thought that they might not be together. They knew everything about each other; they were friends. There was a problem with the first sex because it was like lying in bed with a relative. When they got married, everyone thought the couple would be together for life. But two years after the wedding, the girl started to feel uneasy; her personal life wasn't working out. She began to doubt whether she had made the right choice, and then she met Pavel, her current husband, and for the first time in her life, she fell madly in love. She discovered what passionate sex was.
Everything was different, although she still loves her first husband, but more as a friend. He also has a second wife and a child, and he is happy. Many also feel obliged to meet the expectations of others — their partner, parents, friends. They agree that they are made for each other, but sometimes do not listen to their own heart, which over time demands the satisfaction of their needs. The phenomenon of relationships in elementary school is that at a very young age, two people come together united by love and friendship. The intimacy was born naturally. Naturally and gradually, attachment and support, exploring the world together, and getting to know each other. And for them, 'always' and 'forever' are the most natural states in the world. For those who have not experienced this, it is hard to understand and believe that sometimes such love truly lasts until 'death'.
