Come over to my place and bring some food! - The man wrote to Maria on the second day of their acquaintance.
You know, I'm already afraid of dating. I feel like there are hardly any decent men left.- Where do such conclusions come from? - From life. From encounters with reality. I am very disappointed. My friend is ten years younger than I am. However, my dating experiences and hers are vastly different. Previously, everything was simple for us: we liked each other, went on a couple of dates, and then we were a couple ready to head to the registry office in a year or two. At least my friends and I, who are of the same age, did not encounter any difficulties or pitfalls along the way. Now it seems like everything has turned upside down.
Let me share my friend's latest dating story. I have permission to publish it. For convenience, I'll call her Maria, even though that’s not her real name. So, Maria registered on a dating site. She posted several of her beautiful photos. For the meeting, she wrote 'meetings and friendship' to keep it neutral and without any supernatural expectations. Just to communicate, get to know each other better, and...Closer, and then we'll see how it goes. Maria is an attractive girl.
On her very first day online, she had more than a hundred likes, yet few dared to write to her. Among the sensible ones, she noted Maximo: he communicated well, proposed interesting topics, and asked if she was ready to meet in the evening for a walk. The classic walk took place in the park. The gentleman turned out to be a former lawyer, a former businessman, and currently unemployed. Therefore, he could only offer free trees and an asphalt path between them as entertainment. To his credit, we should mention that Maria didn't have to be bored. He talked about the books he read, how he fought against injustice, and how much he loves psychology, which turned his life around.
As the meeting was coming to an end, Maria thought that Maximo could very well be a potential partner for life: divorced, with no children, and he owned an apartment (inherited from his grandfather, but those are just details). Maria also had her apartment, but had housing...She was impressed by her cavalier. Maximo was tall, handsome, intelligent, and besides, work could always be found. Exiting the park, they reached the bus stop. Maria had arrived by car, but she parked it a bit further away, observing how her cavalier would behave. He might offer her a ride or pay for a taxi. Neither happened. Seeing his bus, Maximo hastily hugged Maria and dashed towards the open doors.
The first dating disappointment: the man didn't want to see her off, didn't inquire how far she lived. He didn't care how she would get home late at night. The next day, she received a message of rather strange content. Maximo wrote that he realized she was a good girl, but that a relationship with him was mainly for the body, not the soul. Maria had never rejected physical expressions of relationships, but it seemed to her that this was too much. This became the second disappointment, but she liked Maximo, and she decided to give him one more chance. He took that chance directly.
He invited her to his place for a second date, but he made it clear that he didn’t know how to cook, so he suggested that Maria bring something to eat with her. Maria responded with genuine outrage. Maximo, equally sincere, instantly blocked her and added her to his blocklist. He offers her completely, and she is fussy. We are sitting in a café with Maria. There is absolute bewilderment in her eyes. She doesn’t understand what to do next or where to find a man for a family relationship. She says that all the men she has met resemble scared rabbits who fear that a woman will demand that they share their resources and time or ask for help. Their souls have become small and pitiful. Not men but plucked chickens (a direct quote). And I don’t know what to tell her. Maybe you know what’s happening in the dating scene?
