Why, even beautiful women in the West are overwhelmingly single at 40s

I’m on a bus, and two sixth-grade girls were chatting. One says she has something budding with a boy from a parallel class. The other looks at her skeptically and warns, "At that age, they like everything that moves. So don’t have any illusions.

And also:

The attraction will last no longer than a month, then he will switch to someone else. “So small, yet so experienced. And if it’s so complicated at 12-13 years old, then at 40 it’s not simpler, but even more complex. Beautiful, independent, self-sufficient women are alone. They don’t need a helper, a sponsor, a savior, just a person who will bring warm emotions. And there’s no such person...Why? Once, I watched a stream of a businessman. He hosted it to promote his venture. A kind of new form of advertising - live communication with those you wouldn’t ordinarily have a chance to talk to.

A subscriber asked the man:

"What do you value in women at 42 years old?"I remember his answer. The man said, "The ability to understand everything." To speak with one's eyes." And he added that in his life, he would never look at a woman who is trying to beautify herself, as at this age, only intelligence attracts, and nothing more. This does not mean that a man flies to those who solve complex problems in their minds like a bee to honey. But it does mean that in 99% of cases, he will choose a woman who can make quick decisions and take responsibility for them.

He gave advice:

Take a woman to a restaurant. Let her take the menu and place an order. And you follow her. Will she take a long time to study and choose? Will she ask the waiter what dishes he recommends (taking time away from him and from you), will she ask – What do you like to eat? A wise woman will make her order in a flash. It's the same in life. Do you want a beautiful but spineless one? You'll run away from her in a week. Choose the smart ones. I wouldn't say that all wise women are married, and beautiful ones are still looking. But I see one trend. In those couples where the woman does not shy away from life but manages it efficiently, everything is indeed going well, and there's no hint of divorce.

A woman ceases to be a muse and a mystery, but becomes a companion who helps to keep life under control. Drama and imbalance are only needed by Brick and Mortar. The rest of us need stability. Once this stability is achieved, one can fly to the Maldives and give flowers.

Others look on from the outside:

Wow, he loves her. What luck, such luck. Looking at lonely women who consider solitude a curse and karma, one truly understands that they can't pull themselves along in the cart of life, and running in harness together is an unthinkable trick.