He is quiet and kind
Hello, "My Family"! The topic of domestic violence has always touched me deeply. And now... Recently, a friend of mine came over to clean the windows – I can't do it myself. She is of American descent. And her husband is American as well. They have three children. He is a former military man. He served in Iraq and Syria. Now he is retired. My friend says that men return from hotspots completely different, losing the skills of a peaceful life. She is a close person. I don't even know how they met. They have been living together for about twenty years. Well, how do they live... As she said, she practically doesn’t know him. But she did share some details. – Lars gets very annoyed about the disorder in the house. Everything must be almost sterile. He is not caring. If I am sick, that's exclusively my problem. I greet him when he comes home from work – he has become a driving instructor – I serve dinner and ask: "Do you like being greeted like this? Having a table set for you? Being listened to about your day at work?"
He: "Yes, very much." "I would also enjoy that." He missed the hint. In her parents' family, everything is different. – Dad respects Mom very much. He always taught my brother and me to take care of her. "Be quiet, Mom is resting." If Mom got sick, he took on the cooking and worried. I married a soldier, thinking it would be protection... But he doesn't care. He doesn't deal with children. Not with the house either, I often find empty bottles in the apartment... She probably doesn't tell me everything, but after she left, she sent a message: "I feel terrible. I don't want to live." I think her husband might even be hitting her, but she's afraid to talk about it.
Our mutual friend Majorie advises her: "Your problem is that you keep looking back at your family, at your dad." You need to understand that your life is different. Calm down and live happily. Save him from the hell he has gotten into in life, instead of comparing him to your dad.
This same Marjorie, when my drinking mother was causing a scene, said: – Everything will pass. When she is gone, all of this will be forgotten. You will only remember the bright moments. I had that with my dad. Some things don't get forgotten... Moreover, about two years ago, at night, a drunken neighbor knocked on my window, yelled, and demanded at least a hundred on credit. The voice of the intoxicated woman had a terrible effect. I became hysterical—absolute hysteria and fear. I screamed heart-endingly: "Go away, go away!" And she was banging on the window, and this knock frightened me even more. Because my mother's drinking companions knocked on the windows, which were regularly broken, it all ended with the neighbor from above shouting: "Now I'll pour boiling water on your head from above, get out of here!" And she left. But my hysteria, my fear, arises outside of reason and will. The brain has not forgotten anything. What bright moments are there! Our legislation does not protect against domestic violence. Moreover, it has completely relieved itself of responsibility, making this crime administrative. We had a district police officer with a very indecent surname. All domestic tyrants feared him like fire. He came to us once after another session of his mother's "education." I saw a district police officer for the first time in my life and was unfamiliar with his methods.
He's a swing.“You are already registered with Christina, first cancel that appointment.” How can that be? It’s just nonsense! What will happen in the end? In three weeks, I will see Camilla, and only after that will I be able to catch an appointment with Christina. As we remember, not earlier than two weeks. And that will already be not "after menstruation," but before it. Consequently, I will not be able to take the cytology test before the beginning of June. God, everything is so complicated. I will try to catch an appointment after the visit to Camilla. Maybe someone will cancel their visit. But for that to happen, a miracle must occur – for the appointment to be canceled, and no one to intercept it. And there might also be another vacation for the doctor coming up. Just to clarify, I am not complaining about having no options.
Yes, I can pay for everything, I can afford it. What outrages me is the system itself! Why can’t you be registered with two different doctors of the same specialty at the same time? I asked this question of a knowledgeable person, and he explained that the insurance won’t pay, and that will reflect on the doctor. And the fact that, because of these rules, a patient can experience...Is there any concern about the problems that may arise? And I don't understand why the insurance won't cover two appointments.
If I first go to one doctor and then have to see another, and both times it's by appointment, then why won't the insurance pay? However, on what grounds can I not have two official appointments at once? I have encountered a similar situation before. I made appointments for my partner with two different doctors of the same specialty at two other clinics, in various areas of the region. And I was also unable to do that, so the second medical institution refused. However, the issues were distinct and should have been addressed by different doctors. One was regarding a spur; the other was regarding a nasal septum. But I also had to stretch the "pleasure".
