"There are no men in our country because their women raise them."
In one episode of the show "Men or Women," Janne Walker said the following: "There are no men in our country because their women raise them. I have a favorite story. It's a child's birthday party. The kids are playing, and the mothers are sitting together. The favorite theme: "Men are goats." And suddenly, at some point, a big kid runs up to his mom and yells: "Mom, Michael hurt me!" And then the mom, who just 5 minutes ago was talking about how men are goats, stands up and says: "Where's this Michael? Where is she? I'm going to...! This is how women are raising their sons today. You raise your sons to be the kind of men you want to see beside you. That's how it should be!" This was an old episode, but it's so relevant today. As is customary for us, the husband is the breadwinner, while the wife takes care of raising the children. And the father, at best, interacts with the children in the evenings and on weekends. And even from this small amount of time, not everyone spends even half of it.
Half an hour on upbringing issues. It seems that the school should take care of this, along with teachers, caregivers, and, of course, the mother. And when it comes to teaching children to respect each other, it seems that very few people do that today. What if the parents are divorced, and only the mother is raising the children? Often, she may not only be unable to teach respect but, on the contrary, instill aggression in the child's mind. For example, one of my acquaintances was abandoned by her husband, and she returned to her family with a three-year-old child. And what do you think? She did not hide from her daughter from a very young age how bad her father was, without any shame in her expressions. She did not hide the fact that all men are like that, that no good can be expected from them. And what if a boy stays with a divorced mother? Fathers are generally very little involved in raising children. And if they are divorced, during the rare meetings with the child, will anyone focus on upbringing? Will a father teach his son how to treat girls, respect them, and protect them? He would rather maintain his authority in his child's eyes.
Let's remember how children were raised in Europe. Firstly, the authority of the father was indisputable for both sons and daughters. They also respected older relatives. Secondly, from a certain age, not only the mother but also the father and other male relatives took on responsibilities for raising boys. They taught them work, imparted various skills, and boys did not spend all day with their mothers but worked alongside their fathers, taking example from older men. If now the upbringing of both daughters and sons is handled only by women, grandmothers, and mothers, then what kind of boys should we expect to grow up? Infantile, irresponsible, failing to recognize that they should be stronger than women, not understanding that it is they who should protect women. Well, this is logical if, from an early age, a boy is taken care of by his mother and grandmother, who run after him, do everything for him, and deal with the children who bully him, including girls. I once read about a case at a playground.
A son ran up to his mother and complained about a girl. And she said: 'Go and give...' give her change. If she responds to you, then I'll come and deal with her myself." But the boy will remember from childhood that this is how you should behave with girls, and when he grows up, he will behave the same way with women. And then women complain: "Why does my husband hit me?" or "Why do men behave like women?" Because women taught them that way. Of course, there are also good boys, whose mothers raise them correctly, and whose fathers are actively involved in their upbringing. I am not claiming that all are like that. But for some reason, there are many such cases. And especially many women who drill into their children’s heads that their fathers are bad. Her ex-husband hurts her and teaches her child that the father is evil. Of course, it can be different, but during the upbringing process, you need to think about what kind of people the children will become when they grow up. Will the daughter be happy if the mother keeps telling her that all men are bastards? And will the son meet a good woman who will love him if he doesn’t know how to treat her properly? What do you think?
