Should the husband give his salary to his wife as before?
"Better a little good than a lot of bad" is an old Jewish proverb. Just as in this proverb, many people remember the Soviet past. There was little money, but it was always there. People went to work with confidence, and they knew that they would receive their pay on payday. They were not afraid to lend each other "until payday", knowing that they would repay the debt. And most importantly, they brought money home. Each family member knew that somewhere in the depths of the wardrobe or under the mattress, there was a large amount of money - savings, common money, the family budget, the money that each working family member put there.
And everyone knew who and how much was paid, down to the penny. There was little money, and there was nowhere to spend it either. No one flew to Turkey and Egypt, people did not buy foreign cars, nor did they buy the latest mobile phones. They could save, for example, for a kitchen or bedroom set, for a color TV, or a domestic car. There was little money, but their grip was firm. There was little money, but it was enough for everything necessary. Today, everything is different. Some say that it is better, since there is an opportunity to earn, and the amount of income depends only on the desire. And someone says that it has become worse. There is no stability. Today there is income, and tomorrow it may no longer exist. And today we only remember how a conditionally unhappy husband used to bring a salary, give every single penny to his wife, and then beg her for money for every little thing.
Did anyone have this? Today, everyone has a card, and none of the rest of the family has any idea to whom, when, or how much money is being transferred. I agree that no one could "jump over their heads" before, but now it is possible; you can earn a lot. But I often read in the comments that in families today, there is just a "squabble" for resources. Almost no one has a typical family budget anymore. And many believe that whoever has earned honestly has the right to dispose of everything; if you want to spend on something, you will earn money. Earn it yourself. Men increasingly write in their comments that they do not want their wife to spend their honestly earned money on themselves, that they are not going to support their wives, and let them work too. That's right. But women often agree to this. My friend went to the hospital several times for preservation due to health and difficult pregnancy, and just before childbirth too, and each time, the laptop was the first on her list of things. She worked in a maternity hospital, although she has a husband who also works. And that's okay, tell me? This is such a frantic rhythm, and health is not in the first place. But there are families where the husband works alone, and at the same time, provides for the whole family, including the wife and two or even three children. Men sometimes write that their wives do not work, and that they give all their salary to their wives or transfer it to their card, since she is responsible for all purchases and payments. Some men have no reason not to trust their wives, since they spend money wisely.
And the men themselves are even so, even easier, my head no longer hurts about what and when to pay. When I write about such families, I receive negative comments about the fact that the author does not know life at all: "Who lives like this now! It is impossible to live on one salary. Both must work." Families are different, and everyone lives very differently, too. The income gap is huge! How is it better when there was little money, there was a typical budget, no one was chic, but at the same time everyone was fed and clothed, or like today, when the amount of income is not limited, only ploughed days and nights, and at the same time some fly several times a year to the sea, and others can barely make ends meet? And are there many men who are not afraid to trust their wives with their salaries today?
